Last night I had a dream that I woke up looking femme and cute af and I was like "finally I can be as gender fluid as I've always wanted to be."

Woke up for real today with my IRL manFace but you know it is what it is.

I'm happy with who I am.


I've been told by non-binary folx that what I describe to them as my feelings is that I, too, am actually enby by definition, but I've never really identified as that so I've always just sort of been me. With no particular gender or sexual identification.

This is also kind of the first time I've been really open about this.

@garrett ( and, like,... as i tend to yell about a lot.

like, you definitely don't gotta identify any particular way or use any particular words for you. you don't exist to validate anyone else's identity or nothin'; they'll hopefully learn, in time, that they've always been valid with you or without.

but, ya know,.... ya can if ya want! :thinkhappy: )

@bobby_newmark @garrett I almost said something like "just be you," but this says it with real words.

@SetecAstronomy @bobby_newmark I've been pretty afraid of the LGBTQ+ community even though by definition I'm a part of it. I just feel like an imposter most of the time. I dress cis and I'm dating a straight woman. I have terrible LGBTQ+ imposter syndrome lol

@garrett @SetecAstronomy @bobby_newmark
I date a white cishet male. That doesn't make me any less queer than what I am.

I get your syndrome, though. *hugs* Come to a march, talk about things, find more NB's. You'll see we're not that scary and that we come in all shapes, sizes, relationships' formats and clothes. ;)

NB here, btw!

@garrett @SetecAstronomy @bobby_newmark The erasure of straight-passing queer people is something the community constantly deals with and handles really badly, in my opinion. But as one of the erased, let me say this. You do you and we've got your back. Whatever labels you want or don't want, we've got your back, if you want it.

@thegibson @sungo @garrett @bobby_newmark In case you couldn't tell from my ramblings, I don't care "what" you are. You're a cool person, and that's enough for me.

@SetecAstronomy @sungo @garrett @bobby_newmark

also well said.

As far as I'm concerned, as long as you do not actively harm others, you're alright...

sliding scale based on character after that. :)

@garrett @bobby_newmark @ella_kane

a) eh, you just find some good friends who happen to be a part of it who accept you regardless. That's really what it's about

b) better you than me, they'd never late me in the front gate. I questioned my identity when I was younger. I didn't fit in with my peers at all. Should I have been born a girl? The whole concept of trans or gender identities was utterly foreign to me at the time. I've since come to accept myself exactly the way I am. I just happen to be a cishet white male. The enemy in the eyes of a variety of peoples.

Thankfully I have a wide variety of friends with all sorts of interesting backgrounds. So it really doesn't bother me. I accept them for who they are, and they accept me for who I am.

@garrett I don't really know how to be supportive of this, other than to fave the toots. But don't take the lack of spoken response to be a lack of support.

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